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  • How A Single Income Family Can Afford A Whole-Food Diet

    How A Single Income Family Can Afford A Whole-Food Diet

    Like many of you, we are a single-income, larger-than-average, (1.8 or more children), homeschooling family.

    And both my husband and I come from a rich, Dutch heritage.

    In other words, whether or not we need to be, we enjoy frugal living. I'm also a lover of nutritious, from-scratch, whole-food cooking. Overtime, we've found that you can have one and the other! Here's how we can enjoy a mainlywhole-food diet on a budget (we still eat take-out more often than I'd like to admit!).

    Cheap foods that are good for you

    1. Whole grains. Oatmeal, brown rice, and quinoa are cheap! For ultimate nutritional value, choose any of these grains and soak them for a hearty breakfast that'll keep you energized all morning.

    For a fabulously healthy, gluten-free, blueberry-muffin smelling breakfast, pour 1 cup of steel-cut oats, brown rice, OR quinoa in a crock-pot. Add 1 1/2 cups of almond milk, 1 1/2 cups water, 1-2 Tbsp of ground flax seed, 2-3 Tbsp butter or coconut oil, 1 cup fresh blueberries, cinnamon, sea salt, and sweetener (honey, maple syrup, stevia, or brown sugar) to taste. Stir. Cook on low overnight. Alternately, try using diced apple and a handful of walnut in place of blueberries.
    2. Beans and legumes. Beans are one of the cheapest proteins available and can be used to replace meat in a meal. Given a good, over-night soak in purified water, they are a highly digestible form of fiber, complex carbohydrates, iron, and folate - ideal if you're pregnant or breast-feeding.

    Our favorite way to enjoy beans are in chili, taco salad, and brownies (there's a Special Agent Brownie recipe in Trim Healthy Mama that's absolutely fabulous!).

    3. Eggs. Eggs are one of the very few complete proteins available to us (they contain all 9 essential amino acids), contain only 70 calories, and are chock full of nutrition. Besides being excellent sources of protein and good cholesterol, they also contain iron, vitamins A, D, E, and B12, folate, selenium, and lutein.

    Eggs can be cooked quickly in a variety of ways (hard or soft-boiled, fried, poached, scrambled) and provide great structure and texture when added to baked goods.

    We enjoy them on their own and in omelettes, crepes, breakfasts bakes, and pizza crust.

    Foods worth paying more for

    No matter how tight our budget, there are certain foods I don't cheap out on as we feel the extra dollars are insignificant compared to the health benefits. We'd rather "pay the farmer than the pharmacy," as the saying goes.

    1. Oil. It's a safe bet that anything you can get in a big plastic jug for $4 is not good for you. Vegetable oils and margarine derived from cheaply grown or genetically modified plants like sunflower, corn, soybean, canola, safflower have little nutrition to begin with and are chemically altered and deodorized in order to make them palatable. Our bodies were not meant to consume them.

    Opt instead for healthy saturated fats that are rich in Omega 3 fatty acids. These include butter (preferably organic), coconut, olive, and red palm oil.
    2. Fresh, local, organic produce. We can't afford to purchase all of our produce this way, but we try our best to grow or purchase the infamous "Dirty Dozen" organically as these fruits and vegetables contain the highest pesticide residue otherwise:

    • Peaches
    • Apples
    • Celery
    • Peppers
    • Nectarines
    • Strawberries
    • Pears
    • Cherries
    • Spinach
    • Lettuce
    • Potatoes
    • Grapes
    12 fruits and vegetables that contain the contain the least contamination we don't worry about paying the organic price-tag for:
    • onions
    • avocado
    • sweet corn
    • pineapples
    • mango
    • asparagus
    • bananas
    • cabbage
    • broccoli
    • papaya
    • kiwi
    3. Dairy products and alternative beverages. Although we use several cultured forms of dairy, we don't drink animal milk products as they are difficult for the body digest. If it was legal to purchase raw cow's milk, we would certainly give it a try!

    Instead, we use coconut or almond milk. They contain high levels of vitamins A & D and are lactose free. They cost slightly more than pasteurized, hormone enhanced cow's milk, but since we rarely use it for more than our morning smoothie, we don't notice a difference in our grocery bill.

    As our budget allows, we try to purchase higher quality dairy products like kefir, greek yogurt, cream and cottage cheese.
    4. Meat. Cheaper cuts of meat are usually that way because they come from animals that are pumped full of genetically modified grain products, growth hormones, and antibiotics - the sole purpose of which is to fatten an animal up as quickly as possible for slaughter. Food Inc. is a fascinating documentary that explains how the food industry is making us sicker, fatter, and poorer through this process.

    Although more expensive, grass-fed, locally raised, organic beef and chicken is a far more nutritious alternative and of much less consequence to your health.
    5. Sweeteners. Sugar is cheap, appeals to our pallet, and is easy to come by. Consequently, diabetes, obesity, cancer, heart failure, and a host of other health concerns are also the norm. We stay away from refined sugar as much as possible and use raw honey, pure maple syrup, and stevia instead.

    While they should still be used in small quantities, these sweeteners contain healthy enzymes and minerals which are difficult to get from other foods. They also have a healthier Glycemic Index which means they don't mess with your blood sugar levels in the same way refined sugar does.

    Where to get healthy food for less

    1. Garden. Anyone can grow their own produce, even a little bit. Be it a pot on the balcony of your apartment or a 3 acre market garden, all you need is some seed, soil, water, and sun and you're in business.

    We put in a large raise bed last year for free - my husband made a tarp in exchange for a truckload of triple-mix and I used the gift cards I got for my birthday to purchase our seeds and plants.
    2. Farmer's Market. Farmer's markets are great places to find local, seasonal produce, cure meats, eggs, honey and maple syrup at a fraction of the price you find in the store. Plus, farmers generally care about individual relationships with their customers and often offer a faithful buyer further discounts and "throw in a little extra."
    3. Local Farmer. In the fall, we often purchase 1/4-1/2 a cow from a Christian farmer who grows his beef organically. We get to choose how we'd like it butchered and our freezer is well stocked for several months. We estimate purchasing our meat this way saves us 30% of the store price.

    If we had the space for it, we'd love to keep our own chickens. We go through plenty of eggs around here! Thankfully, they are cheap to come by! We buy them from Brad's co-worker whose family keeps organically raised laying hens as a sideline business.

    In the summer, we pick our own berries, freeze most of them, and turn some into sauce or jam. A relative of ours keeps a bountiful raspberry patch where we can come and go as we please.

    It didn't work out last year because of pregnancy complications, but this summer, my mom, sisters, and I plan on putting up other produce from local farms that we don't grow ourselves: peaches, pears, carrots, pickles, etc.

    4. Bulk Stores. I buy most of our grain from The Bulk Barn. We often receive coupons for $3.00 off a purchase of $10.00 or more (which I can easily spend in one visit!). I blend whole kernels with my Wondermill and the stuff I purchase pre-ground (flax), I purchase in small quantities as it goes rancid quickly. I purchase my organice herbs, teas, sea salt, and spices from The Bulk Herb Store.

    I also purchase soap and other dried goods here like coconut, almonds, walnuts, and cranberries.
    5. Grocery Store. You can save money at the grocery store by using coupons, ad-matching, checking the clearance shelf, and purchasing store-brand non-perishables like brown rice and tomato paste.

    The clearance shelf where everything is ripe and ready, is a wonderful place to get greatly discounted produce. If you have a juicer, freeze your juice into Popsicles for a healthy summer treat or into ice cubes for slushies. Peppers and onions can be cut up and bagged for pizza toppings, apples turned into sauce, and mushrooms sauteed in butter for a fine steak topping.
    6. Online. I must admit to rarely purchasing groceries online. I prefer to see the product myself. The exception to this is the extra virgin coconut oil I get from Tropical Traditions. The quality is truly remarkable. We use it a lot, especially in desserts like Chunky Cream Pops, Skinny Chocolate, and Peppermint Patties. I'm thankful it regularly goes on sale for 40-50% off.

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  • Roasted Red Pepper Butter

    Roasted Red Pepper Butter

    Roasted Red Pepper Butter is a great way to pack a lot of savory goodness into a healthy fat! You can use it as a spread for sandwiches or crackers, or serve with meat and fish for some flavorful protein.
    Recipe adapted from Nourishing Traditions, pg. 151.
    Roasted Red Pepper Butter Time: 10 minutes prep, plus 30 minutes oven-roasting. Yield: 2 cups Gluten-free, Trim Healthy Mama Friendly (S)
    Ingredients:

    • 2 large red peppers, cut into 8 strips each
    • olive oil
    • 1 3/4 cups butter, softened
    • 1 tsp sea salt
    Directions:
    Place pepper pieces in an oiled, 9x13" glass baking dish and bake at 400 for 30 minutes or until skin begins to buckle. Using tongs, place pepper pieces into a sealable bag for 10 minutes to loosen skin. Remove skin and place pepper pieces in a food processor or blender and puree until smooth (I like a few chunks in mine). Add butter and sea salt and blend well. Place in a sealed container and store in the fridge.

    Place pepper pieces in an oiled, 9x13" glass baking dish.

    Bake at 400 for 30 minutes or until skin begins to buckle.

    Place pepper pieces into a sealable bag for 10 minutes to loosen skin.

    Remove skin.

    Puree in blender until smooth (I like a few chunks in mine).

    Add butter and sea salt and blend well. Place in a sealed container and store in the fridge. Enjoy!

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  • The Best Men Are Men At Best | A Christian Response To Doctors, Medicine and Healthcare

    The Best Men Are Men At Best | A Christian Response To Doctors, Medicine and Healthcare

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    When we were on our honeymoon, I picked up a bacterial infection. I couldn't keep anything down and spent a day in the hospital on IV. The doctors gave me an antibiotic designed to kill the bacteria. I took it as prescribed, but the problem got worse. I sought the advice of a Doctor of Natural Medicine who suggested I take Black Walnut tincture. The infection was gone in two days.

    A few months later, Brad lost thirty pounds in three months (and he didn't have a pound to spare in the first place). He saw multiple specialists and had every test under the sun. No one could make a diagnosis. He was eventually told, "Maybe this is your ideal weight. Not everyone is meant to be the same size." Another doctor recommended that he should start drinking Boost to gain weight.

    We took a look at the ingredient list and were shocked to discover that the first three ingredients were water, sugar, and corn syrup which made up 47% of the actual serving! That's equivalent to swallowing your vitamins with a 237ml glass of water containing 7 teaspoons of sugar.

    Brad wanted to gain the weight back but in a healthy way. He chose not to drink Boost. We quit going to doctors and started doing our own research. For two years, we tried various diets and eventually eliminated gluten, and limited corn, and cow's milk (we still love dairy, just not store milk itself). I started making smoothies full of good fat and kefir for breakfast and he started taking probiotics with his meals. We still have a long way to go, but he's slowly putting the weight back on.

    When our then 18 month old son started getting chronic ear infections (at least one a month), we took him to a specialist. He said our son would eventually grow out of it, but in the mean time, we could either choose to have tubes put in his ears, or relieve the pain with Tylenol and Motrin. I knew Tylenol and Motrin would do nothing more than mask the real problem and was concerned with the toxic effect regular doses of ibuprofen would have on his liver and kidneys. A friend of mine recommended I take him to the chiropractor. After a series of four adjustments, he hasn't had an ear infection in over a year.

    When our daughter was born 6 weeks premature, I was denied the right to breastfeed our daughter because the nurses said she would burn too many calories if I let her work for it instead of using the tube for feedings like they recommended. My midwife was happy to intervene on our behalf and when I finally got the chance to breastfeed our little girl, she gained four ounces overnight - more than she had gained on the tube since birth!

    We were told our youngest baby's life was not "viable" (worth trying to save) until I reached 24 weeks; I hemorrhaged nine-days postpartum after a botched manual placenta removal; our ex-gynecologist had no problem delivering a child in one room and aborting another in the next.

    Doctors are but men.

    They have helped us on many occasions and to a large extent, we place a lot of faith in their expertise. However, we must be careful not to credit them with an infallibility they do not have, and remember that it's an individual's right and responsibility to choose who they trust with their healthcare.

    We've been reminded many times over the past few years that the best men are men at best. Doctors make mistakes, just like everybody else. They don't have a solution to everything, and often their solutions are atomistic instead of holistic. If that's what you like, it's not a problem, but if your philosophy of healthcare has got you believing that we ought to focus on healing the root cause of a malady in addition to providing symptomatic relief, then it makes sense to investigate alternatives to conventional medicine.

    It's odd to me that our advocating the use of natural means (which have proven to be effective and superior to conventional medicine several times in our experience) can bring out the worst in people. There seems to be some sort of understood rule that if you don't put all your money on a conventionally trained M.D. from the Mayo clinic, you must therefore be a fringe greenie who will drink herbal concoctions to the death!

    We make our healthcare decisions based on a position somewhere in the middle of the two extremes. I'm not comfortable putting all my eggs in a basket I've seen break before, and I'm skeptical of advice that comes from a doctor who doesn't believe all of life is sacred, beginning at conception and ending with natural death.

    I don't trust natural "medicine" doctors who believe the power to heal lies within yourself (this philosophy contradicts everything Scriptural), and I don't buy the lie that you can discredit diet, exercise, and proper hygiene so long as you take several handfuls of supplements and chug them down with a bottle of Pepsi.
    With conventional medicine now the third leading cause of death killing 225,000 people each and every year as recognized by the Journal of the American Medical Association and half of doctors routinely prescribing drugs they know won’t work, learning to stand up for yourself in any sort of medical situation and not take advice blindly can be a lifesaving skill. An informed patient is no doubt a doctor’s worst customer. ~ The Healthy Home EconomistSo, who do we trust?

    That's for you to decide, but these are a few principles our family tries to take into consideration when we have a decision to make regarding our health:

    Find a Christian, pro-life doctor who respects your parental rights and invites inquisition. If your doctor ignores your questions, fails to give straight answers, or gets agitated when you don't immediately jump at his offer to write up a prescription, it's time to find someone who treats you like a human being instead of another cog in the wheel.
    Get a second opinion, and a third, and a fourth. I feel more confident of a diagnosis and prescription if multiple doctors are in agreement. If four doctors tell me four different things, I don't know who to believe and start seeking the counsel of others who have been in a similar situation.
    Seek counsel from seasoned mothers. Is there anything more sincere than a mother's love for child? Mothers who have dealt with a sick child are usually well-studied in all the different options available, and tend to have an empathetic heart to go along with it.
    Do your own research. By that I mean, don't believe everything you read online. Study reputable sources, consult with herbalists, chiropractors, nurses, nutritionists, doctors, and homeopaths. Self-educate and become well-rounded so you can make an informed decision.
    Trust your intuition. God gave that to you!

    Pray! Too often I forget that the miracle worker of Nazareth is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). God is not limited by time, space, medicine, or a diagnosis. He invites us to touch the hem of His garment when we've spent all our living searching for answers and finding none (Matthew 5:25-29).
    Remember that God has all our days planned. I can't explain the paradox of God's Sovereignty and man's responsibility, but it's a comfort, not a curse, to know that even though the responsibility of their healthcare falls into my lap, God entrusted them into our care after He had planned out all their days (Psalm 139:16). Not a hair can fall from their head without His permission (Luke 12:7).
    Recommended Resources:

    Treating Fevers Naturally by Meagan Vissers, RN, FH. Meagan is a Christian friend of mine who has been trained in both conventional and herbal medicine. The information in her eBook was the answer to my concerns about Tylenol and Motrin's effect on our organs, and gave me a plethora of effective, natural solutions.

    Treating Fevers Naturally taught meeverything the doctor didn't:what a fever is and why it’s a good thing; what’s going on with your child when they have a fever; what the difference is in “degrees” of fever; the concerns of fevers and how to deal with them appropriately; the difference in medical vs. natural treatment options; and natural treatments for bringing a fever down and making your child comfortable.

    Treating Fevers Naturally sells for $14.97, but the education and confidence it gives a mother in charge of her child's health is priceless.

    The Bulk Herb Store. The Bulk Herb Store is a Christian, family-run business that sells a vast collection of organic herbs and teaches people how to use them for practical and medicinal purposes.

    I used their herbs to help a complicated pregnancy, and to make the post-partum herbal bath I enjoy after each child is born. Their book, Making Babies, taught me how to make my own herbal tinctures and salves and how and when to use them. I also use their spices and sea salt in my baking and cooking.

    Other hugely informative books and videos they carry include:

    • Be Your Own Doctor by Rachel Weaver
    • Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Dr. Natasha Campbell-McBride MD, MMedSci(neurology), MMedSci(nutrition)
    • Herbal Antibiotics by Stephen Harrod Buhner
    • Herbal Antivirals by Stephen Harrod Buhner
    • Herbal Recipes for Vibrant Health by Rosemary Gladstar
    • Practical Herbalism by Phil Fritchey
    • The Green Pharmacy by Dr. James A. Duke
    • The Herbal Drugstore by Linda B. White, M.D., Steven Foster.

    Trust Your Intuition by Jenni Wilson, M. H., wife of an M.D. Trust Your Intuition is the combined work of several Christian medical experts (three of whom are my personal friends), and seeks to provide balanced, grace-filled, information regarding both conventional and alternative medicine.

    It offers easy ways to protect yourself and family from synthetic medicine and it's negative side effects, help you avoid toxic treatments, and choose natural therapies that have proven to be effective in homes all across the country.

    The Maker's Diet by Jordan Rubin, Ph.D., N.M.D. We were thrilled to discover this book shortly after Brad's weight reached an all time low. Most diet books are designed to help people lose weight, but The Maker's Diet is the story of how Jordan Rubin, a once healthy young man in his prime, who experienced the same kind of weight loss as my husband and was eventually given up on for dead by several doctors.

    He started patterning his diet and nutrition according to principles he discovered in the Bible, attained his ideal weight, and wrote about his journey in book that has helped people boost their immune systems, improve their physical appearance and digestion, regain their energy, and reduce their stress.

    We don't follow The Maker's Diet explicitly, but it was the foundation for much of our diet change and investigation into holistic healthcare.

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  • Now I value Life

    Now I value Life

    (Our family in 1997)
    There are days when I struggle to be the 60-year-old mother of three active and involved young adults, aged 19, 19, and 21, but as my husband and I look back over what the Lord has done, we marvel at God's grace and mercy! We can't imagine life without these young people!

    There is great joy in what the Lord has done for us... for you see, we were married for almost 19 years before we had the blessing of a child! The reason? We had not obeyed God's commands, and we suffered consequences that would reach over many years. In some ways, those consequences still continue today, though forgiven.

    I will tell you the sad story.

    The early 50s, when we grew up, saw increasing prosperity. After the terrors and hardships of WWII, families in the U.S. were focused on getting that new dishwasher, television, and maybe, even two cars. Women were leaving home for the job market in record numbers to have the extras.

    (My family)
    Then in the 60s and 70s, rebellion and 'free love' on college campuses exploded onto the scene. Most parents were totally unprepared to deal with it all, and thus, by default, didn't. Busy with earning a living, many parents were out of touch with the social pressures their young people faced, the anti-God stance in schools, and the growing fractures between generations.

    (We are in the couple in the middle; not too serious about life)
    My husband and I both had parents who loved us, but their generation generally did not find it easy (or were unaware of the need) to discuss deeper issues with their young people.

    While on campus, we 'married' ourselves (without family or friends) in a chapel before 'God' on the I.U. Bloomington campus, and I lived in the frat house from Thursday to Sunday night. Life was all partying or studying. This was not at all abnormal during those years ('69-73) in the middle of the sexual revolution, the Vietnam War, Woodstock, and and the devaluation of life with the Roe V. Wade decision (1973).

    Immediately out of nursing school, my boyfriend (now my husband of 38 years) and I lived together as did many, but certainly not all, of our classmates. We finally did get properly married, much to my mother's relief. We were 21 and 22.

    Upon graduation as an RN, I worked in open-heart surgery at a large metropolitan hospital. Occasionally, when there was a need for extra personnel in the abortion area of that hospital, I would be called on to assist as were other surgical nurses. Even after being raised in a private Christian school environment (and calling myself a Christian), I was unable to apply the things I studied in my catechism class to real life decisions. I was for all practical purposes "dead in my trespasses and sins."

    "And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—" ~Eph. 2: 1
    I am ashamed to say that we had an abortion several years into our marriage. We had bought into the worldly view of living for ourselves, careers, money, and things.

    Two decisions forever changed the direction of my life~ 1.) breaking God's protective commands regarding the sacredness of marriage (having sex before marriage) and 2.) disregarding the sanctity of life (participating in and having an abortion). I didn't know it would affect my health, my fertility in years to come, or undermine our own self-respect or our respect for each other.

    Nevertheless, God faithfully lead us to a solid Bible-believing church, and I finally accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior at 29. By this time, I was really suffering emotionally. The pain got my attention. You can't tell me that abortion doesn't mess you up! I had already had several miscarriages and knew there were other things wrong.

    The worst were flashbacks to assisting in a surgical abortion one day at the hospital where I found a perfect, tiny hand less than the size of a dime stuck to the side of my gloved hand. It is terrible to remember it. I ran out of the OR and refused to go back. It has taken years for those scars to heal. I learned the value of human life in a split second. It wasn't tissue to me anymore; it was a baby!

    Now slowly my perspective changed. My whole being desired to be a mother, to bring forth new life within our marriage and before God. And we could not! Years went by with several more miscarriages. We did two home-studies in order to adopt, one Korean, and one local, but the Lord chose to close the doors. These are stories in themselves... Many, many people at our church and other friends were praying for us.

    After 8 years of pursuing medical help to conceive (Clomid and surgeries for endometriosis), and then 4 years off, I got a call from a surgeon I worked with who told me about a new procedure called GIFT (gamete intra-fallopian transfer). I was working nights, 7 days a week, to afford the earlier procedures since insurance wouldn't pay for infertility treatment. I felt the clock ticking the years off my life...

    After much prayer and many tears, we decided to go ahead. The first GIFT produced 2 tiny heart beats seen on ultrasound at 4+ weeks. One was in the (wrong) fallopian tube... the damaged tube! We had a tubal pregnancy which is dangerous, but both babies failed to grow. It was so discouraging: over $11,000 and nothing to show for it, but stress and grief and high levels of drugs (Metrodin, Lupron, and Pergonal).

    I was determined to continue since there was a 36% chance in those days of delivering a live baby. We were told there was no other way.

    (I clung to the verses of Isaiah 54: 11-15, especially verse 13)
    The second attempt went perfectly in every way. Twins! We were SO excited! My middle quickly got big, but in the fourth month I realized I was not growing in measurement. I was getting smaller!

    (Two babies)
    A hastily arranged ultrasound revealed that one of the little lives I carried had died several weeks before. We saw a separate sac with little bones, and were told our second baby might miscarry, too. We were crushed, and I was in anguish. I was guilty of all those earlier years, and just knew I was being punished.

    I almost forgot about the life within me as I focused on the loss. "Why God?" Satan almost destroyed my joy, except that Jesus is greater! "Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." (1 Peter 5: 8)

    Later, even though our other baby would be fine, I felt such frustration because if we didn't want an only child, we would have to go through another of these uniquely stressful procedures with all the costs, shots, and stress leading up to it. Then once the procedure is over, there is the waiting for that determining ultrasound to give you the news, good or bad!

    Having a baby can easily become an idol! I had to get over it so I could focus on having a joyful heart for my husband and new son. It was the will of a loving, sovereign God, and His comforting presence was very real.
    "... give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you." ~1 Thessalonians 5: 18

    Finally, the day arrived, and the Lord in His mercy gave us a beautiful, healthy son. My aching arms were filled, and we dedicated him to the King of Kings for His glory!

    woman in surgery

    I can't describe the joy and wonder of it all. We had been married 19 plus years!!

    My doctor said I was 'jump-started' with all the hormones, so we did a third GIFT to give our new son a little brother or sister. We were blessed with adorable, healthy twins exactly two years later. We praise God for His abundant grace and mercy!

    Now I value life!

    It has been a long road to forgiving myself for assisting in and having an abortion, but I found the Lord has welcoming arms to forgive us when we come to Him in repentance. We are sinners, but by His grace, we have hope... and now can see His guiding hand in it all. Thank You, Lord, for birthing in us new life, spiritually and physically!
    "... I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live." ~Deuteronomy 30: 19

    The takeaway: We have been able to share with our children (appropriately, through time) the curses we had brought upon ourselves. That has protected them, to a large degree, from repeating the same mistakes which we made. It is a blessing to tell them of the mighty things that the LORD has done for us while we were yet in unbelief and of the restoring power found only in trusting Christ Jesus. Today we enjoy a rich relationship with each of our children by the grace of Almighty God. I share this with you to encourage and strengthen YOU that no matter where you find yourself, our gracious God is always at work. Never give up hope, dear one.
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    For 38 years now, I have been first a wife, but also a teacher of our children in the home. Now a new season is here, and with the blessing of my husband, I write DeepRootsAtHome as an encouragement to myself and others. (Titus 2: 3-5) What I share will be varied and practical…focused on being a good steward at home, of our time, and our relationships…but I also love to do things that bring beauty and order to our hectic lives and reflect God’s creativity. Oh, may we learn how important our jobs are as we become older women of God to speak into the younger woman! The habits of the home in one generation become the morals of society in the next. As William Ross Wallace said: “The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.” 10 May, 1996 Washington Times.

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  • Why I'm Not Cut Out To Be A Homeschool Mom

    Why I'm Not Cut Out To Be A Homeschool Mom

    Sometimes, I get this funny feeling that many folks think we homeschool mothers are just not normal. “Not normal” meaning: we are somehow exempt from the common plagues of womanhood. You know, impatience, griping, anger, poor time management, selfishness, loneliness, hormones, etc.
    I’ll never forget the day a mother told me, “I wish I wanted to homeschool. But I just need that alone time while my boys are away at school!” Where do people get this idea that women who choose to homeschool their children, do it because it’s just so easy for them?
    That we don’t “need alone time”. Don’t wake up tired and grumpy on occassion. Never get sick, or have sick little ones. Don’t crave adult conversation, or relish a hot shower without interruptions, or wouldn’t like to spend one day without peeling hardened pasta off the kitchen floor with a spatula.

    I have a news flash to share: Homeschooling moms are “normal”. We are flawed, selfish sinners, just like everyone else. We fight the same battles with our flesh (and our flesh and blood) as every other mother in the world. The one difference between the “I don’t want to’s”, the “I wish I wanted to’s”, and the determined “I’m going to’s!” is nothing but… Grace - the power and desire to fulfill God’s will for our lives. That grace is new…every morning.

    I well remember the frazzled day I told my husband (in a not-so-gentle way), “I AM NOT CUT OUT TO BE A HOMESCHOOL MOM! I just can’t do it!” Looking back those eighteen or so months, I realize I am not the same woman who sobbed those exasperated words to my husband. Granted, I have the same struggles. Wake up to the same challenges every day. But I am not the same. Because of grace.
    I’ll give you a few good reasons why I’m not “cut out” to be a homeschool mom:

    • I’m impatient.
    This lack of virtue has been my life-long struggle. I get irritable. Easily. Gentleness does not come naturally or easily for me. I’m task-oriented. High strung. A perfectionist. Interruptions bother me. Chaos distresses me. Need I say more?
    • I’m inconsistent.
    Homeschool moms are Super Women who know how to train perfect children, maintain a well ordered home, prepare healthy meals, sew their own clothing. I can’t do all those things all the time. I start… and stop. Learn… and burn (out). I struggle to with stick with basic routines, much less strict regimens. I’d ruin my kids!
    • I don’t have time.
    Seriously, what mama does “have time” to homeschool her children? Who is supposed to clean the house and buy groceries and do laundry and plan menus… while Mama teaches her children? I haven’t even mentioned my role of being a wife, much less the wife of a pastor. I definitely don’t have time. Do you?
    • I don’t have space.
    In my house, I mean. Right now, there are 7 of us living in a 2-bedroom house. Where would I put all those books and supplies and materials- piled on the dining room table? We’d be in each other’s hair all day. It just isn’t reasonable. I need my space.
    The odds are against me: temperament, schedules, circumstances. It just wouldn’t work! But it does work. And I am. Not because I’m necessarily “good” at it, or because it comes easily for me, or because everything always just falls into place for our family.
    Homeschooling “works” for our family because we make it work. It is a priority. A calling. Even a conviction. Because of our commitment to homeschool, there are many other things we aren’t involved in, don’t spend our money on, don’t invest our time into. Not because some of these “other things” are bad, but because they would rob us of these precious years to nurture and train our children.
    I can only homeschool my children once in my lifetime and theirs. Now is that time. It is up to me, and to my husband, to make these days count. For eternity. This is why I choose to get up every morning, sit down at our dining room table, and teach my children in the best way I know how.
    Honestly, I don’t love it every day. But every day I am learning, growing, and increasingly grateful to be a homeschool mom. Even though I’m not really “cut out” for it.
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    Kristy Howard is a believer in Jesus Christ, a pastor’s wife, and homeschooling mother of four. She is passionate about living simply, naturally, and Biblically for the glory of God. Kristy is the editor and owner of LittleNaturalCottage.com, where she furiously writes about her loves during nap time. She and her husband, Jeremy, make their home in North Texas, where they enjoy their growing family, their church, and their pursuit of a debt free life.

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  • It Took a Vasectomy...

    It Took a Vasectomy...

    My husband and I, both unbelievers at the time, decided to end our fertility after having two children. Our reasons…we had one of each (a boy and a girl), my health had not been good during our pregnancies, our marriage wasn’t the greatest, and honestly, the whole “stay at home mom” thing wasn’t all that fun!

    Fast-forward one year after the vasectomy...

    The Lord had opened our eyes to Him. We were heavily convicted to reverse what we had done. It was not an easy process but by many miracles the Lord worked through the hands of a doctor to fix what we had decided to break.

    “I praise you Lord for I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14).
    Being fixed didn’t necessarily mean more children. Fixed meant that our marriage union had been restored to the way God had designed it. To be able to give yourself completely to one another defines the “oneness” that God speaks of in Genesis. “The two shall become one.” (Genesis 2: 24b)

    God in His timing did decide to open my womb. Nine months after the reversal we found out that we were expecting. This third pregnancy (and first reversal miracle) brought such joy to my heart. Along with the joy also came major health issues. This was one of the many reasons we had the vasectomy to begin with. However, I looked upon the complications so differently this time around because God had really opened my eyes to His purposes for my life. I was created by Him and for Him AND for His glory. He made the reversal happen, and He chose to create new life within me. I honestly was not bothered by my severe high blood pressure. I knew that God was taking good and perfect care of me.

    Needless to say the gift of faith in Him that He had given me carried me through that very difficult pregnancy. When we made it to delivery, my blood pressure had rocketed to new levels - 220/130. The hospital stay was one to remember as they tried to pad the bed and strap me down anticipating that I would start having seizures.

    Luke Isaac was born by cesarean section (just as the first two had been). He was healthy and absolutely beautiful! Luke, one of the gospel writers in the New Testament, was a physician. Since the Lord worked through a physician to heal my husband, we decided to name our baby boy, Luke. Isaac means laughter. If you had told us when we had gotten married that we would have had more than two children, we both would have laughed!

    Shortly after Luke was born, we were warned heavily against having more children. My husband and I had already been down that road and decided we were not taking charge of our fertility ever again. With that being said, we were told that we should find out what was going on. What was causing these very high sporadic blood pressures that would typically begin around week twenty in all three of my pregnancies? Our OB referred us to another Dr. for some lab work. Our OB had indicated to us that twenty years prior she had delivered a baby, and the mother had very similar issues during pregnancy. This particular patient though went into a coma right after delivery and died three months later. My OB discovered that her patient had a very rare tumor known as a Pheochromocytoma. I of course thought my OB was crazy to even suggest I had a tumor that acted up only when pregnant. But since we were going to remain open to children, it was worth us checking into.

    Wouldn’t you know it! After some testing, we soon found out that I did indeed have this rare and life threatening tumor. Three months after Luke had been born, I had surgery to remove the 5cm tumor that was encapsulated in my right adrenal gland. The reason my blood pressure started rising around the twenty-week point was because the baby then had enough weight to apply pressure to this adrenaline releasing tumor!

    Indeed the Lord saved my life through childbirth!!! “Yet she will be saved through childbearing.” (1 Timothy 2:15) If we had not had the reversal and our third baby, we would never have discovered that I had this life threatening tumor.

    Three months after the tumor was removed we found out that we had been blessed again with baby number four and a complication free pregnancy! After baby number four-came number five and after number five-came number six! Number six is scheduled to make His appearance the first week in August.

    Ellie (2nd born) and Marah Joy (4th born)

    Connor (1st born) and Luke (3rd born)

    Lucy (5th born)
    “Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

    Malachi Jacob (6th being knit in my womb)
    His name comes from Malachi 2:15…Hasn’t He made the two of you one? Both of you belong to him in body and spirit. And why has he made you one? Because he was looking for godly children.

    Has it been an easy road? No. Are my pregnancies a walk in the park? No. Do I get scared sometimes and question? Of course I do! But the facts remain…God’s Word is true and never changes. He restored my marriage by literally pulling us both from the slimy pit. He made us whole (as He created us to be). He opened our eyes to His blessing of children. May He continue to give me the faith to offer my life as a living sacrifice to Him and His Kingdom!

    *Note: The Dr. we used for our vasectomy reversal was Dr. Leverett. He does reversals as a ministry and at low costs. You can find more information as his website: http://reversals.com/
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    Angela is the wife of her best friend Ken for 11 years and the mother to six children, four of which are post-reversal blessings! She enjoys being a homemaker and delights in finding new things to craft, bake, or sew. Occasionally, you can find her posting at Angela's Sewing For Sanity.

  • Resources

    Resources

    Books

    Motherhood

    • Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman
    • Passionate Housewives Desperate for God by Jennie Chancey and Stacy McDonald
    • Raising Godly Tomatoes by L. Elizabeth Krueger
    • Parenting On God's Promises by Joel Beeke
    • Loving the Little Years by Rachel Jankovic
    • The Mother At Home by John S.C. Abbott
    • A Mother's Heart by Jean Flemming
    • Be Fruitful and Multiply by Nancy Campbell
    • A Full Quiver by Rick and Jan Hess
    • Fit To Burst by Rachel Jankovic
    • The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
    • Proverbs for Parenting by Barbara Decker
    • Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney
    • Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson
    • When Motherhood Feels Too Hard by Kelly Crawford
    Homemaking
    • Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman
    • The Hidden Heart of Homemaking by Edith Schaffer
    • The Christian Homemaker's Handbook by Pat Ennis
    • From Mother to Daughter by Vivienne Bolton
    • Homespun Gifts from the Heart by Karen Ehman
    • Homespun Memories from the Heart by Karen Ehman
    • Mrs. Dunwoodey's Excellent Instructions for Homekeeping by Miriam Lukken
    • Home Ec 101 by Heather Solos
    • How To Sew A Button by Erin Bried
    • Home Economics: Vintage Advice and Practical Science for the 21st Century by Jennifer Trontz
    Education
    • Upgrade | 10 Secrets To The Best Education For Your Child by Kevin Swanson
    • Teaching the Trivium by Harvey and Laurie Bluedorn
    • When You Rise Up by R. C. Sproul Jr.
    • Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto
    • Weapons of Mass Instruction by John Taylor Gatto
    • Indoctrination by Colin Gunn
    • The Well-Trained Mind by Susan Wise Bauer
    • Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe by Todd Wilson
    • Educating The Whole-Hearted Child by Clay and Sally Clarkson
    • Hand That Rocks The Cradle: 400 Classics for Children by Nathaniel Bluedorn
    • Chucking College by Melanie Ellison
    Culture
    • The Second Mayflower by Kevin Swanson
    • Folks, This Ain't Normal by Joel Salatin
    • Apostate by Kevin Swanson
    Finances/Economics
    • Biblical Economics by R. C. Sproul Jr.
    • Whatever Happened to Penny Candy by Richard Maybury
    • The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn
    • Calvin and Commerce by David Hall
    Marriage/Family
    • When Sinners Say "I do" by Dave Harvey
    • What Did You Expect? by Paul David Tripp
    • The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
    • Reforming Marriage by Douglas Wilson
    • Family Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham
    • Family Shepherds by Voddie Baucham
    • What He Must Be by Voddie Baucham
    • I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
    • Of Knights and Fair Maidens by Jeff and Danielle Myers
    Food / Health
    • Trim Healthy Mama by Pearl Barrett and Serene Allison
    • Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon
    • Making Babies by Shoshanna Easling
    Boys
    • Bringing Up Boys by Dr. James Dobson
    • Created to Work by Bob Schultz
    • Future Men by Douglas Wilson
    • Boyhood and Beyond by Bob Schultz
    • Plants Grown Up by Pam Forster
    • Practical Happiness by Bob Schultz
    • Do Hard Things by Alex and Brett Harris
    Single Daughters
    • So Much More by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin
    • It's Not That Complicated by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin
    • Joyfully At Home by Jasmine Baucham
    • Feminine By Design by Scott Brown
    • Beautiful Girlhood by Karen Andreola
    • Let Me Be A Woman by Elisabeth Elliott
    Novels/Biographies
    • End Of The Spear by Steve Saint
    • Safely Home by Randy Alcorn
    • The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis
    • Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss
    • Lord Foulgrin's Letters by Randy Alcorn
    • Deadline by Randy Alcorn
    • Pilgrim's Progress by John Bunyan
    Children (Read-A-Louds)
    • Wisdom and the Millers by Mildred Martin
    • Storytime with the Millers by Mildred Martin
    • Missionary Stories with the Millers by Mildred Martin
    • The Little House Series by Laura Ingalls Wilder
    • The Railway Children by Edith Nesbit
    • The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett
    • The Christopher Churchmouse Treasury by Barbara Davoll
    • The Bronze Bow by Elisabeth George Speare
    • The Door In The Wall by Margaret De Angeli
    • The Tanglewood's Secret by Patricia St. John
    • Treasures of the Snow by Patricia St. John
    • Huguenot Garden by Douglas Jones
    • The Minstrel in The Tower by Gloria Skurzynski
    • The Hawk That Dare Not Hunt by Day by Scott O'Dell
    • Ink On His Fingers by Louise Vernon
    • The Answers Books for Kids by Ken Ham
    • The Way of the Master: Teaching Kids to Share Their Faith by Kirk Cameron
    Christian Living/Spiritual Growth
    • The Bible
    • Calvin's Commentaries by John Calvin
    • The Christian's Reasonable Service by Wilhemus Brakel
    • Running Scared by Ed Welch
    • War of Words by Paul Tripp
    • Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges
    • Don't Waste Your Life by John Piper
    • Choosing Gratitude by Nancy Leigh DeMoss
    • The Answers Book by Ken Ham
    • Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible by Matthew Henry
    eBooks
    • Homeschooling Day By Day co-authored by yours truly
    • The Pursuit of Motherhood co-authored by yours truly
    • More Than Rules | Exploring the Heart of Beauty and Modesty by Bambi Moore (read my endorsement)
    • Overwhelmed: Hope and Help for the Financially Weary by multiple authors (read my review)
    • The Heart Of Simplicity by multiple authors (eBook)
    • Trim Healthy Mama (Read my review)
    • True Christian Motherhood by June Fuentes (eBook)
    • When Motherhood Feels Too Hard by Kelly Crawford (Read my review)
    • 31 Days To Clean | Having a Mary House the Martha Way by Sarah Mae
    Homeschool
    • Answers In Genesis
    • Creation Ministries International
    • JM Cremps | The Boys Adventure Store

    Modest Clothing
    • Deborah & Co. (Read my Maternity Skirt Review)
    • Flirty Aprons
    • Joyfully Sewn Designs (Read my review of our daughter's dress)
    • New Creation Apparel
    • Shabby Apple
    • Very Jane
    Herbs & Natural Health And Beauty Products
    • Beeyoutiful (Their Miracle Salve is our favorite hand cream!)
    • Bulk Herb Store
    • Cowgirl Dirt (natural make-up)

  • Time-Saving Home Management Tips

    Time-Saving Home Management Tips

    In Part 3 of this series, I emphasized the importance of keeping our priorities aligned as God desires (God, Spouse, Children, House) and listed 15 Good Things I DON'T Do so I can give them adequate attention.

    You cannot schedule long, lingering hugs with your husband, heart-to-heart's with your children, or circumstances that bring you to your knees and compel you to worship your Creator; but you can learn how to manage your secondary duties efficiently. This does three things:

    1. It affords you more time to invest in the souls entrusted to your care.
    2. It keeps your home "company-ready," and open for hospitality, whereby some have entertained angels, unaware. (Hebrews 13:2)
    3. It teaches your daughters, by your own example, how to care for their own homes one day.

    There are thousands of books available to help learn how to organize your home (I'll list my favorites at the end of this post), so I'll keep it short and simply list a few small, but meaningful things that have been a great asset in helping me manage our own home:

    Meals for the freezer. 1. Double up when you cook or bake. Get into the habit of cooking extra so you have one meal for dinner and one to put in the freezer or give away. It takes almost no extra time or energy to double (or triple) a recipe and having a healthy "heat-and-serve" meal available on busy days is a great stress reliever! Some of our favorite things to freeze are soups, chili, casseroles, muffins, cookies, and brownies.

    Making granola and sweet potato fries in the kitchen while the kids do school at the table. 2. Make supper at breakfast. I try to make my meals in the morning, or at least get some of the prep work done while the kids are doing their independent work at the kitchen table. That way, if school takes longer than normal or we have swimming lessons in the afternoon, 5 o'clock isn't as rushed as it could be.

    3. Learn to use the kitchen wonder-tool: your crock-pot! You don't even need to use a recipe. Throw in a frozen cut of meat, a few vegetables and some spices in the morning, cover and set to 'Low,' and you'll have a tender, flavorful meal ready by dinner.

    Our "school" cabinet across from the kitchen. The small drawers contain our pencils, markers, crayons, glue sticks, erasers, etc., and the four larger drawers contain our workbooks (one for each child, and one for Mommy). 4. Manage your space efficiently. Don't make yourself walk across the kitchen to retrieve the pepper grinder while you're simmering soup. Keep your baking essentials in a cupboard above the area where your blender is stored; your plates and silverware in closest proximity to your table (or dishwasher, if you have one); the schoolbooks on a shelf or drawer near to where you normally do your lessons (for us, that's the kitchen); the toys where the children play.

    An uncluttered house is easier to clean up! 5. Clear the clutter. Get rid of the stuff you wouldn't know was missing if it suddenly disappeared. Donate, re-gift, recycle, or throw out. You'll spend less time trying to organize and clean what you don't need and your home will feel bigger and brighter. Cleaning up their toys will also be less daunting for your children when they have fewer of them to put away (you can read more about the toy storage system for our small house here).

    A typical wash day: Charity (4) helps me fold (she's better than I am!), Judah (2) mountain climbs the unfolded pile, and Anna (7 months) watches us for entertainment. 6. Devote specific days to specific tasks. This is not a new idea. For Ma Ingalls and other pioneer women, each day had its own chore:
    Wash on Monday. Iron on Tuesday, Mend on Wednesday, Churn on Thursday, Clean on Friday, Bake on Saturday, Rest on Sunday. Nowadays, with machines that speed up a great deal of these things and imported products that are cheaper to buy than make, my list looks a little different but the principle is the same. In addition to homeschooling everyday, I typically do laundry on Monday, groceries on Tuesdays, freezer cooking and baking on Wednesdays, swimming lessons and the bulk of my writing/blog business on Thursdays, housework on Fridays, outside work on Saturdays, rest on Sundays.

    7. Multitask. I make dinner while the kids are doing their schoolwork at the kitchen table, check my emails or read aloud when I'm nursing, dust when I have a phone call to make, and review memory work while we're folding laundry.

    What I aim to have our kitchen look like before going to bed at night. 8. Clean up the night before. I'm much more excited and motivated to start my day when I wake up to a clean kitchen and a tidy house. Every evening after supper, Brad and I wash and dry the dishes while the kids clean up their toys. They are rewarded with a bedtime story if they get the living room (also our play area) neatly organized before we're finished.

    9. Ensure you're are being spiritually fed. You can read the scriptures out loud to your children while you are nursing, sing Psalms at the kitchen sink with your two-year-old, or pray while you're driving. I keep my Bible on my nightstand so it's the first thing I see every morning before starting my day.
    "He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint." Isaiah 40:29-31

    When I remember to wear one, a pretty apron makes me feel like a real homemaker! My favorite ones come from Flirty Aprons. 10. Dress for the job. There's a reason the corporate world abides by a professional dress code. Dressing for success often leads to success. Your clothes make a strong visual statement about how you view your job. Comfort aids productivity and your personal, creative, feminine style tells the world your role is freeing, not stifling. Decide what you're going to wear the night before and put it next to your bed. Commit to not leaving the bedroom until you're dressed!

    If you struggle with the temptation to stay in your robe like I do, I highly recommend reading Frumps to Pumps: Your 1-Month Motivotional to Getting Dressed and Staying That Way by Sarah Mae.

    11. Take care of yourself physically. Eat healthy, take your vitamins, get fresh air, shower, go to bed on time, and adopt an attitude of joy that will energize you for the tasks at hand.

    My very simple meal plan on a magnetic menu pad I found at Wal-Mart. 12. Meal plan. I'm not a rigid meal-planner, but I like to have a week's worth of dinners written down so I have a general idea of what I can prepare in the morning. It also saves me time and money at the grocery store.

    13. Unplug. Turn off your distractions. Consider getting rid of the TV if it keeps you from going to bed on time and get an emergency only plan for your cell phone. Unplug the computer if you won't be needing it for several hours and keep it in an inconvenient location so it's a pain to check Facebook when you're supposed to be homeschooling.

    Before and after the kids have cleaned up the living room/play area. 14. Involve the whole family. Managing a home doesn't mean you have to do all the work; it means you are responsible for seeing that the work gets done. Don't assume your children are going to learn how to run a home by osmosis. Let them take responsibility by giving them their own chores, and in the process of teaching them life skills, you will find more time to engage in fun, memorable family activities like hiking, tobogganing, or traveling together.

    15. Stay home. Novel concept, isn't it? If too many trips out are keeping you from fulfilling your duties at home, it's time to cut back. I try to set aside one morning a week to do all of my grocery shopping and limit our extra-curricular activities. Currently, we're involved in swimming lessons and leave one other afternoon open for visits to the library, a friend's house, or a field trip. I don't go to Ladies Bible Study at Church and rarely go shopping "just for the fun of it."

    My to-do list, decorated by someone who found a pen. 16. Make lists. Remember all of those careers being a homemaker encompasses? Making bite-size lists can do wonders when you're feeling overwhelmed. You can see exactly what needs to be done and get the satisfaction of crossing off a task when it has been completed.
    17. Just do the next thing. When your kitchen sink is overflowing with dirty dishes, the floor is sticky, and dinner still needs to be made, just do the next thing. Don't look over your whole list or get side-tracked by thirteen other things that are calling for your attention. Just pick up the dish-brush, fill your sink with hot, soapy water, and do the next thing.

    18. Accept help when it is offered and ask for it when it's not. Accepting help is not a sign of weakness or failure; it means you're a human who understands that no one can do it all. Asking for help humbles a person and opens their eyes to the community of believers that God has arranged to encourage and support each other (1 Thessalonians 5:11-13).

    If you could recommend one life-altering home management tip, what would it be?

    Recommended Resources
    These are affiliate links for books I love, which means I make a small commission if you choose to purchase through them, but please don't feel obligated to do so!

    • Large Family Logistics by Kim Breneman
    • More Hours In My Day by Emilie Barnes
    • Saving Dinner Basics by Leanne Ely
    • Sink Reflections by Marla Cilley (The FlyLady)
    • The Christian Homemaker's Handbook by Pat Ennis
    • The Family Manager Takes Charge by Kathy Peel
    • The House That Cleans Itself by Mindy Starns Clark

    Part 1: Keeping A Growing Home | A Management Series for Moms Part 2: Keeping A Growing Home | Know Your Role! Part 3: Keeping A Growing Home | Making Priorities & 15 Good Things I Don't Do Part 4: Keeping A Growing Home | Time-Saving Home Management Tips Part 5: Keeping A Growing Home | My Daily Schedule

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  • 100 Books To Give For Christmas!

    100 Books To Give For Christmas!

    Harry S. Truman said,
    "Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers. "In a world of Sheeple who are content follow where the culture leads, a good Christian book is our favorite gift to give. They're relatively inexpensive, easy to wrap or mail, can be read again and again, and best of all, a good book can make an eternal impact on someone's life.

    Books are the perfect gifts, and if you're on our list this Season... well, you know what to expect! Here's a list of 100 titles we've loved and recommend:

    Motherhood

    1. Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman

    2. Passionate Housewives Desperate for God by Jennie Chancey and Stacy McDonald

    3. Raising Godly Tomatoes by L. Elizabeth Krueger

    4. Parenting On God's Promises by Joel Beeke

    5. Loving the Little Years by Rachel Jankovic

    6. The Mother At Home by John S.C. Abbott

    7. A Mother's Heart by Jean Flemming

    8. Be Fruitful and Multiply by Nancy Campbell

    9. A Full Quiver by Rick and Jan Hess

    10. Fit To Burst by Rachel Jankovic

    11. The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson

    12. Proverbs for Parenting by Barbara Decker

    13. Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney

    14. Desperate by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson
    Homemaking

    1. Large Family Logistics by Kim Brenneman

    2. The Hidden Heart of Homemaking by Edith Schaffer

    3. The Christian Homemaker's Handbook by Pat Ennis

    4. From Mother to Daughter by Vivienne Bolton

    5. Homespun Gifts from the Heart by Karen Ehman

    6. Homespun Memories from the Heart by Karen Ehman

    7. Mrs. Dunwoodey's Excellent Instructions for Homekeeping by Miriam Lukken

    8. Home Ec 101 by Heather Solos

    9. How To Sew A Button by Erin Bried

    10. Home Economics: Vintage Advice and Practical Science for the 21st Century by Jennifer Trontz
    Education

    1. Upgrade | 10 Secrets To The Best Education For Your Child by Kevin Swanson

    2. Teaching the Trivium by Harvey and Laurie Bluedorn

    3. When You Rise Up by R. C. Sproul Jr.

    4. Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto

    5. Weapons of Mass Instruction by John Taylor Gatto

    6. Indoctrination by Colin Gunn

    7. The Well-Trained Mind by Susan Wise Bauer

    8. Lies Homeschooling Moms Believe by Todd Wilson

    9. Educating The Whole-Hearted Child by Clay and Sally Clarkson

    10. Hand That Rocks The Cradle: 400 Classics for Children by Nathaniel Bluedorn

    Culture

    1. The Second Mayflower by Kevin Swanson

    2. Folks, This Ain't Normal by Joel Salatin

    3. Apostate by Kevin Swanson

    Finances/Economics

    1. Biblical Economics by R. C. Sproul Jr.

    2. Whatever Happened to Penny Candy by Richard Maybury

    3. The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn

    4. Calvin and Commerce by David Hall

    Marriage/Family
    1. When Sinners Say "I do" by Dave Harvey

    2. What Did You Expect? by Paul David Tripp

    3. The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace

    4. Reforming Marriage by Douglas Wilson

    5. Family Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham

    6. Family Shepherds by Voddie Baucham

    7. What He Must Be by Voddie Baucham

    8. I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris

    9. Of Knights and Fair Maidens by Jeff and Danielle Myers

    Food / Health
    1. Trim Healthy Mama by Pearl Barrett and Serene Allison

    2. Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon

    3. Making Babies by Shoshanna Easling

    Boys

    1. Bringing Up Boys by Dr. James Dobson

    2. Created to Work by Bob Schultz

    3. Future Men by Douglas Wilson

    4. Boyhood and Beyond by Bob Schultz

    5. Plants Grown Up by Pam Forster

    6. Practical Happiness by Bob Schultz

    7. Do Hard Things by Alex and Brett Harris
    Single Daughters
    1. So Much More by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin

    2. It's Not That Complicated by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin

    3. Joyfully At Home by Jasmine Baucham

    4. Feminine By Design by Scott Brown

    5. Beautiful Girlhood by Karen Andreola

    6. Let Me Be A Woman by Elisabeth Elliott

    Novels/Biographies

    1. End Of The Spear by Steve Saint

    2. Safely Home by Randy Alcorn

    3. The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis

    4. Stepping Heavenward by Elizabeth Prentiss

    5. Lord Foulgrin's Letters by Randy Alcorn

    6. Deadline by Randy Alcorn

    7. Pilgrim's Progress by John Bunyan

    Children (Read-A-Louds)

    1. Wisdom and the Millers by Mildred Martin

    2. Storytime with the Millers by Mildred Martin

    3. Missionary Stories with the Millers by Mildred Martin

    4. The Little House Series by Laura Ingalls Wilder

    5. The Railway Children by Edith Nesbit

    6. The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett

    7. The Christopher Churchmouse Treasury by Barbara Davoll

    8. The Bronze Bow by Elisabeth George Speare

    9. The Door In The Wall by Margaret De Angeli

    10. The Tanglewood's Secret by Patricia St. John

    11. Treasures of the Snow by Patricia St. John

    12. Huguenot Garden by Douglas Jones

    13. The Minstrel in The Tower by Gloria Skurzynski

    14. The Hawk That Dare Not Hunt by Day by Scott O'Dell

    15. Ink On His Fingers by Louise Vernon

    16. The Answers Books for Kids by Ken Ham

    17. The Way of the Master: Teaching Kids to Share Their Faith by Kirk Cameron
    Christian Living/Spiritual Growth

    1. The Bible

    2. Calvin's Commentaries by John Calvin

    3. The Christian's Reasonable Service by Wilhemus Brakel

    4. Running Scared by Ed Welch

    5. War of Words by Paul Tripp

    6. Respectable Sins by Jerry Bridges

    7. Don't Waste Your Life by John Piper

    8. Choosing Gratitude by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

    9. The Answers Book by Ken Ham

    10. Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible by Matthew Henry

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